The whole point of dating
I don’t stand in judgment of single people who focus on business and travel and hobbies – I merely point out that when you’re part of a family unit, it’s not all about you anymore. Is it a different happiness than the intoxicating scent of puppy love? But if the rock star life of rotating partners doesn’t sustain itself into your 50’s and 60’s, you may find yourself wishing you had a husband – one man who was with you for the long haul.
That’s why people get married – to build something bigger and more enduring than anything they can do alone.
To be on the safe side, ASK your partner what he or she thinks you're doing.
Just a little confused about this dating thing; why? I guess I am wondering, if scientific research has shown that humans are programmed to be in only short-term relationships, ie 4-7 years, then why do they strive for life long ones, and why the heck do people need to use the word love as a noun when using it as a verb is a much better idea (at least in my opinion). I just think you’re going to be a bit lonely, that’s all. Would I rather be single than in a bad relationship? But that glosses over a fundamental truth, which is that relationships can be tremendously rewarding. I’m thinking it’s a man who loves you as you are – and maybe even takes away some of your cynicism..
I would say dating someone means that you and another person are consistently seeing each other in a boyfriend/girlfriend type of manner.
I think back in the day, dating was more loosely going on dates with one or many people, but now dating is the past's equivalent of 'going steady.'It's interesting because if I say I dated a guy in past tense, that usually means it was someone I was hooking up with and not an ex-boyfriend because I'd just say ex.
It is human nature for us to justify our circumstances and find rationalizations to support our beliefs. It’s the result of your life experience – the one that made you into a cynical, jaded, opinionated, bullheaded, miserable woman. “It’s either being alone or misery and I choose being alone! The reason that so many people work so hard to find love is because it’s worth it.
You took a fork in the road and are acting as if that’s the only option.
When I was fired from a talent agency, I said to myself, “I hated that job, my boss, and my low pay” rather than “I wasn’t very passionate at my work, I had a bad attitude, and they probably found someone better.” Both are true. And while there’s nothing wrong with flouting societal conventions and turning your life into a series of relationships, like getting a new dog every 10 years, I would point out these two big flaws in your reasoning.As far as I'm concerned, there are two types of pseudo-relationships you can be in that aren't real, bonafide relationships: You're either "hooking up" (casual booty calls, probably not going anywhere) or you're "dating" (going on dates, getting to know each other, hopefully going somewhere).I would say my boyfriend and I were "dating" long before we were in a relationship.What are you agreeing to when someone asks if you want to "date" them?!
These are all questions we need to have answered if we wish to go forward as INFORMED LOVERS.While hooking up involves a bunch of late-night booty calls that don't necessarily need to lead up to anything, dating is time spent getting to know someone, trying to figure out whether or not you're going to take the next step and pursue a real relationship.