How do you know when your dating
But now, their self-centered behavior leaves you feeling emotionally confused and insignificant.
If this sounds like your date, you may be dating a narcissist.
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The dating world can be a difficult world to navigate.
They also take a lot of risks (because, hey, rules don't apply to them) and are fearless, which makes them great dates.
Dating a narcissist is basically a series of endless conversations where you express an opinion and they immediately jump on it.
It's a phenomenon called narcissistic supply, which makes narcissists seek excitement and drama to give them access to admiration, adoration, and notoriety. Any time you say "no" or set up a boundary on their behavior, it's just a red rag to a bull: they hate being told what to do. This can lead to some hilariously House Of Cards problems where they're trying to manipulate everybody behind the scenes (narcissists are also terrible gossips).
Paul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago.(This is partially where the emotional abuse bit kicks in: in my case, my ex loved pulling apart my memories and challenging my view of reality, which is a technique called gaslighting.) Particularly if they believe they're intellectually superior, they get a kick out of dismantling your thoughts and showing off how smart they are. My ex once told me, "Of all the people I've ever taken classes with, yours is the only intellect I've ever respected." A truly spectacular compliment — and one I was bound, eventually, to fail to live up to. They think you might be perfect just like them, and want to impress you — but as it becomes clear you aren't, they become less and less interested.