Daughter unhappy about father dating
To try to make this easier on us, I had decided to leave my professional career in the city and relocate to his small town; I am trying to buy my own home there so there is no stress for us to be together immediately (he is already planning to rent out his house and move in with me.... I am struggling with the fact he has so much 'baggage', the daughter, the nasty ex and a hefty debt load from the failed marriage.
I have no children, no debt and a successful career. I feel like I am the one giving up everything in this relationship (my job, my home), and what will I gain?
Hes a very good father to the daughter but I hate the fact that he has one.
I feel like its not fair to me and to him because i dont think i can accept and love his child that he has with someone else and treat her as my own.
I hate to give people bad news, but nothing worth having in life comes easy.
To me love is the strongest bond in the world, and nothing can get in it's way.
On the other hand, for the first few months the man led me to believe this was the case, but when the honeymoon period was over his attentions shifted back to his daughter from his previous relationship plus he accused me of being jealous of her (oh, please! I sympathise with you as I wouldn't dare tell my mother that I am with a divorced man who has a child-that would kill her, she would be so ashamed of me... Save your dignity and your sanity while you still can.
Why should I think about satisfying my boyfriend paternal instincts and not think about the shame I would bring to my family and the disappointment to my mother? I am in a similar situation, and feel totally overwhelmed somedays.
We haven't met because his ex told him not to introduce us (she has even threatened to call the cops if I go near her).He even told me that he would disown (yes, he did say that I swear! I was also raised to have christian principles i.e.