Dating someone with a spinal cord injury
And I don't think it's their fault, but I did see that there were more people than I realized who felt that way.
About a week after I got off Tinder, I reconnected with a guy I met a year ago at a restaurant who I was immediately drawn to at the time, and we later ended up going on a fantastic date and now we're kind of seeing where it goes.
You seem like there's something wrong." He just said, "I just don't know how to talk to someone in a wheelchair.
After that, a guy I was sexting with on Tinder for a few weeks replied to me casually telling him that I was in a wheelchair with, "Oh. All of that rejection based on being in a wheelchair really messes with your self-confidence.
I'd even vary how soon I would tell them, whether it was two days or a week into a great intellectual conversation or just a great sexy conversation, and every time had the same ending.
Sometimes they would literally say something like, "Well, can you still have sex?
The photos I used weren't cropped weirdly or anything — if you looked closely you could see it, but you wouldn't maybe notice it.
I never did that in an attempt to deceptive, I just wanted people to get to know me as a person and not me as a person in a wheelchair.
I really think the way these guys treated me just has a lot to do with the stigma that's attached to being in a wheelchair because so many people look at you and they automatically assume certain things.