Dating someone and in love with someone else
How, when and where you have this conversation is as important as what you say – you may find it very useful to read our article on communication tips to try with your partner.
This will help you think about ways to broach difficult topics without things turning into a row and how you could communicate effectively and clearly.
One way to address this is by talking about it with someone you trust and who will keep it to themselves. You may find that the act of telling someone how you’ve been feeling is enough to help you begin to understand what’s missing in your life or specifically in your relationship.
If you do think there are problems in your relationship that need to be addressed, you’ll need to find time to talk to your partner.
We often develop crushes on people because we feel they might fulfil a need that isn’t otherwise being fulfilled.
This might be a need for love, attention, sex, friendship or any number of other things.
Developing a crush on someone when you’re already in a long-term, committed relationship can leave you feeling guilty and confused.
They go a level deeper – from the physical to the emotional.
If this is how you feel right now, try not to worry.
This is far more common situation than most people realise.
Sometimes it’s someone closer to us: a colleague, an employer, or a friend.
As part of the above process, it’s generally a good idea to try to avoid regular contact with the person you’ve developed a crush on.Because crushes can happen for so many different reasons, and often start without us realising –which is why developing a crush on someone when you’re already in a relationship can often take you by surprise and leave you wondering whether something isn’t seriously wrong.