Dating and cheating
One in five married women has had a fling -- the highest numbers ever recorded, according to one group of researchers.
Today's women are acting on the urge, more than ever before, a new survey reveals.
Though I didn't know why at the time, I was very closed off and introverted.
I don't think I knew how to be in a good relationship." A woman writes: "Yes, I have cheated.
In fact, the numbers of cheating wives now equals the statistics on cheating husbands, according to a study by Tom W. In these Sex and the City days, that's hardly startling.
"Society has given women permission to be sexually active, and it's perfectly clear why women do it ... They're not getting what they want out of their marriage," says David Kaplan, Ph D, a marriage counselor with 15 years under his belt, and now a spokesperson for the American Counseling Association.
If they are too "distant" and independent, they will likely seek a bond with someone else, he adds. But couples who have warm, supportive feelings for each other -- and express those feelings -- will stay married. "Researchers thought they would find those who wanted divorce had more problems," he says. "Unhappy couples say more negative statements than positive.
There's a very specific ratio -- three positive things for one negative." If your marriage is getting dusty and rusty -- if another guy has caught your eye -- think twice, three times, then think again before you act on it, advises Kaplan.
That person represents the needs that you want fulfilled. I have seen couples get past affairs, but it's hard." Of course, when children are involved, the priorities shift dramatically to them.
They have fewer strategies in working out problems, in getting their needs met." If your marital problems have been ignored too long, the worse the prognosis for your marriage, says Kaplan.
"We try desperately to get to people before they have an affair. Then you're dealing with the lack of trust, the emotional repercussions." Before you cross the line, realize that cheating wives gain nothing, he tells Web MD.
The morning came when he went to work and I left for three days. If they're physically attracted to someone else, they may act on it," she tells Web MD. His "affair" with his work or some other passion like sports may turn her into a cheating wife.
Can't say I had a miserable time but now that I have kids, I wouldn't do it again. "She doesn't feel valued, respected, she's not treated nicely, she feels taken for granted.
"There may not be a cold war, but there will be tension." Their parents' bad relationship teaches kids negative patterns -- even if they don't learn about an affair, she adds.