Dating and breakups

08-Feb-2020 05:19

When it ended, I was devastated at first (again, stupid) but after spending that summer focusing on me — traveling, spending tons of time with friends and family — I ended up being really grateful for the breakup.

Everything is a learning experience, and you grow from everything. My relationship ended due to it being long-distance.

It helped me realize that often if I’m journaling about a “problem,” I’m usually just afraid to communicate what I need from someone.

So, dating isn't always the terrific thing we see on television.

I told him explicitly that he had hurt me, and his texts just reminded me of that pain and shame and all of that.

He apologized for everything and agreed to stay out of my life.

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I’m not normally one to be so direct, but I felt like I couldn’t move on unless I did (especially if he’d keep texting). My one-year relationship ended after Valentine’s Day, when I found him sending the same gifts to his ex-girlfriend.

Reaching out to people resulted in more frequent invites to yoga classes, home-cooked meals, movie nights, and day trips.

Spending significant time with more people who I’d neglected over the years reminds me that I’m independent and I have everyone I need.

The payoff is finding and being with a true soulmate.

I see so many people who cannot point a finger at themselves and work to improve, and I just shake my head.

Some breakups are quick and painless, others gut-wrenching and destabilizing. When you can’t stop thinking about the person who broke your heart, how do you actually move on?