Dating a seperated man with adult children
The girls come first, their parents second, and I’m a distant third. I took a physical step back and let their mom have the moment. Even now, out of respect for the girls’ privacy, I self-limit sharing stories.I usually sit on the other side of the couch so the girls can cuddle up with their dad when we watch movies.I had become accustomed to our time alone: picnics at the Hollywood Bowl and the Greek Theatre, decadent meals at Black Market Liquor Bar and Gjelina, ocean-side walks in Santa Monica.He gave me tennis lessons and I dragged him to yoga class. But my favorite thing was always cuddling on the couch and talking.We figured flashing lights and photo booths, prizes and pinball, loud noises and lots of other kids would be a good distraction from “Dad has a girlfriend,” which also means: “Mom and Dad are not getting back together.”David’s daughters are sweet and smart, loving and funny and generous and affectionate … I tried to relax, think of the stretch of time ahead of us, remind myself there’s no rush.Because my own parents are divorced, I know what it’s like when Dad has a girlfriend.
“It was really hard for me at first,” I said, “and I would understand if it’s weird for you.”More L. Affairs columns“It’s not weird,” said his older daughter. ” I nearly burst out into tears from the joy and relief of acceptance.
The first time I attended a school play, David’s daughter came out after the show.