Black men hate black women dating white men
If you want to, of course, you don’t have to tell him all of our secrets). You may have noticed that the average white dude does not flirt/kick game/holla at a woman in the same way that the average black dude does. He kept calling it “hanging out.” And on these “dates” he didn’t say anything about my body, whether he liked it or what he wanted to do with it — you know standard black dude cues for “I have a romantic interest in you.”White men are super subtle. Because if Chad is shy, and a lot of white dudes are shy, he may get defensive or skittish and say, “No, no, we’re just hanging out.” And that would kill the vibe. If the answer to most or all of these is yes, it may be a date.White men generally flirt in the same way that they conduct business meetings. That’s why I say you may already be dating one because you may have misconstrued the seemingly platonic hangouts you’ve been having with Chad as non romantic, but to him, it’s a date. You may be tempted to be direct and flat out ask him, “Hey Chad, is this a date? Sensitive white dudes scare easily so tread lightly. I wouldn’t get thrown off by whether he makes a move on the first few of these “dates.” Like I said, they can be subtle and shy and slooooow, so give it some time.My dude was a newbie which meant I got to train him to my own unique black girl specifications, it was fun.Yes, you’ll have to be the first to explain hair grease and jumping the broom, and all of that takes time and patience, but the time spent will be worth it. Maybe you don’t have a particular “Chad” in mind but you watched the royal wedding or back episodes of “Scandal” or even re-watched Sanaa Lathan in “Something New” and you’re curious. Maybe you have a specific white dude already in mind and you want some insider tips on how to navigate the ebony/ivory road.
Lacrosse could equal skiing, windsurfing or flip-flops. As long as you’re both willing to learn and share then you both get something out of it.Here’s a tip though, offer to bring a side dish when you’re going to see his people.You shouldn’t show up empty-handed to someone’s house anyway — you know that.Soul train could mean double dutch, spades or sending food back unapologetically. You don’t have to become an avid hiker or wear Teva’s (yikes, please don’t) just because he does. You should at least politely taste everything someone gives you — you know that already, don’t act like your momma didn’t raise you right.
But I say, be open to trying new things at least once. At family events his Mom, cousin, Aunt (pronounced “Ant” for some reason) etc may bust out a white version of a dish that your family makes and you know by the looks of it that it’s not going to taste the same as (read: as good as) your family’s. Will you be subjected to a lifetime of mediocre, under seasoned, undercooked, collard greens? Don’t make a stink eye about it if you don’t like it.
The first few meals may be akin to the dinner scene in Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom ( my personal fav of the Indiana Jones franchise) wherein Kate Capshaw gave the most incredible facial reactions of all time to crazy ass food like monkey brains and eyeball soup.