Black dating myths
When black people are called out of their names and labeled the epitome of homophobia, we should be as offended as when called “thugs” or other racially-charged insults. And, we should respond in similar fashion as when black bodies—male or female, young and old—are targets of attack and violence: whether in a crowd in Chicago, on a bicycle in Baltimore, at pool party in Mc Kinney, Texas, or on a playground in Cleveland, Ohio. In the wake of last year’s Baltimore protests for Freddie Gray, black people challenged their mischaracterizations as “thugs” and “rioters.” These monikers, which came from various segments of the population and media, stigmatized blacks as inherently criminal, violent, and disorderly.While black men and women rightfully contested such labels, another one has circulated generally and goes largely uncontested as if it’s conventional wisdom: that is, the labeling of black people, particularly black men, as the most homophobic racial group—ever.We've been in lines at registers and witnessed same-race couples not received the same line of questioning."(and common sense).
were between two people of different races in 2010, according to the Pew Research Center. But despite general approval, myths around those people in interracial relationships have stuck around.They ascribe a backwardness to blacks, conflate them with excessive homophobia, and cast homophobia as a black phenomenon, while simultaneously minimizing other homophobic attitudes in our society.We are, to be clear, in an era when the first-known black U. President, Barack Obama, endorsed same-sex marriage and is the first to use “lesbian,” “bisexual,” and “transgender” in the State of the Union address."They say they'll be so cute because 'biracial babies always are.' People aren't saying, 'I like you two as people; your kids are going to be awesome.' They're fantasizing about breeding us like designer dogs."All healthy relationships involve listening and accountability, but these responsibilities take on a unique role in interracial relationships.
While Buchanan Rogers said she has encountered people who think interracial couples "don't have candid discussions about race," this is hardly the universal truth."I think some people also have the misconception that when you're in a relationship the race issue becomes irrelevant," Nelson said. Just because you're in love with someone doesn't mean you don't still have to do the important work of checking yourself, making sure you're being respectful and understanding and, well, not racist.
Civil rights organizations and leaders—the NAACP and Rep.